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You said it. Now what are you going to do?

It’s a little ironic, my last post was about how tight lipped everyone is about their swim teams, sites and groups.  I suggested it would be a lot more liberating if we were able to have open and honest conversations with one another.  And now I want someone to shut up.

The other day an email was sent to the director of the site where Sophie and Sarah swim.  Subject line:  Gossip.  Body of the email:  Word on the street is, Sarah and Sophie are being pulled immediately from RMSC and being moved to NCAP.  The worst part is, the email was sent by someone I have known for years, someone I considered a personal friend.  And someone I haven’t seen in several months.  Actually, that isn’t even the worst part.  The worst part is that it is completely false.

My biggest fear when I moved Grace was that Sarah and Sophie would be treated differently.  That the coaches would view them as “it’s just a matter of time”.  And I didn’t want that for them.  As I have said many times, I didn’t move Grace because I was unhappy.  I moved her because she was unhappy and needed to make a change.  For her.  The other two girls were never a consideration.    The other two girls have never stepped foot on the other teams pool deck, let alone attended a practice.  I won’t lie, before I paid for this session I asked them a simple questions.  “Are you happy where you are”?  Without hesitation they both said yes.  It only confirmed what I already knew.  I always ask my kids this though, before registering them for anything.  I got burned once, I registered Sophie for soccer and when she found out she asked why – turns out she hated soccer.  You only make that mistake once.

What really irritates me is that there have been no issues from any of the coaches.  Grace has been to the pool with me many times to visit everyone and is always smiling and happy there.  She misses her friend.  And she is also happier than I have seen her in a long time.  Sarah and Sophie have a huge group of friends and love their coaches.  My kids are really happy.  Grace commented the other day that I have seemed very happily lately too.  I don’t think I realize how hard it was on me seeing my daughter sad and also being in a period of indecisions.  I am happy.  Everything truly worked out better than I had ever hoped.

And then this email was sent.  I was so mad.  I went to far as to text the person who sent it and she denied it.  It was confirmed that she absolutely sent the email and then lied to me about it.  I fumed for a bit and then I went to bed.

I woke up the next morning happy.  I don’t have to do anything to prove her wrong.  Sarah and Sophie went to practice that next day.  Because they want to be there.  I still don’t know what her motivation was for sending it.  I also don’t care.

I have had a few parents try and antagonize me, in the hopes of my saying something negative.  They have failed.  Miserably.

I time at swim meets.  It’s nice, you don’t have to talk to people.  I’ll continue that practice.  I’m happy to have a pleasant conversation with you.  But please don’t create drama where there is none.  Dual alliances? – maybe.  Family rivalry? – No way.

 

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Just say it…

“I hear you have a secret”

I was picking Sarah and Sophie up from practice the other day and a parent approached me with an odd grin on her face and said this to me. I hadn’t seen her since the season started and I knew exactly what she meant – but I decided to play her game. I responded “no I don’t”. She hemmed and hawed and finally got to the point. Grace left RMSC. Not a secret. This type of behavior annoys me. And I see a lot of it. Or more so, the behavior that causes people to ask questions in a less than direct way.

People don’t hesitate to brag about their children’s accomplishments in school, sports or in general. But as my kids get older I find it increasingly more difficult to get a straight answer out of people about where their kid swims.

I spent the better part of the spring and summer attempting to talk to people about their kids swim club and/or groups. I was asking simple questions. How many kids are in the group, when do they practice, what is the dry land like, do you like it, does your kid like it? I was surprised by how ambivalent people are about their programs. I don’t for one second believe that they are truly ambivalent, it is more of a perceived ambivalence. I sensed Grace was going to make a move and with time on our hand I wanted to mKe an informed decision.

I don’t really understand it. I think people feel like they are giving away trade secrets if the say too much about their program. I have always been an open book. I’ll tell you everything you want to know. Is it really a secret how many practices your kid goes to a week?

A major deciding factor in choosing the group and club we did was based on conversations we had with other parents. Everyone we talked to spoke highly of the coach, the group of kids and the other parents. I made this decision with confidence. After chatting with a mom who had kids swimming for both RMSC and NCAP, we were sold. She convinced us that our master plan would work.

Once we made the decision I was really surprised how many people expressed disappointment that we didn’t move to “their” site or club. I gently reminded them of conversations we had over the summer, conversations that led to no where.

Maybe I under complicate things. It’s just swimming. I’ll tell you anything you want to know about the groups my kids are in or have been in. I have this mentality that we are all in it together. We shouldn’t be afraid to talk about successes, failures, fears and accomplishments. I like having people I can talk to, run ideas by and brains I can pick. It’s hard to find that. It shouldn’t be.

I don’t fault that mom for asking me about Grace’s change in club affiliation in such an odd manner. We have taught ourselves that we can’t simply ask the question.

I’m not a rule follower. Ask me a question. I’ll answer it. We are all just parents trying to do the best for our children. Opening up to each other, being honest about fears and concerns and being open and honest with each other can be very liberating.

So no, it isn’t a secret. Grace moved. But I will let you in on a secret. She loves it. She is happy. And smiling again. That makes me happy,

Fitter and Faster Swim Tour

Fitter and Faster is offering clinics throughout the US.  These are geared towards the higher level competitor.

This one is being held locally this coming weekend.  I’m not sure we can attend this one but I would love to get my girls to one. I spent some time chatting with their local representative at zones and was really impressed!

High Performance Racing and Mindset

This clinic focuses on the High Performance Racing and Mental techniques, skills, turns, drills, and starts of Olympian Lacey Nymeyer and USA National Team members Tim Phillips and Katie Meili.  The clinic is sponosred by Potomac Valley Swimming and is exclusively for PVS swimmers ages 12 and over.  There will be a special “Raising an Olympian” parent education seminar, led by Olympic parent Stacey Nymeyer (mother of Lacey).

HIGH PERFORMANCE RACING SKILLS:

  • PERFECT STREAMLINING AND BODY POSITION: Understanding and practicing how a more streamlined body position can affect your efficiency in through the water is a crucial skill.  Using drills the teach balance and body awareness, Nymeyer and Phillips will show how the slightest changes in core tension will cause your body to rise or sink in the water.
  • EXPLOSIVE AND EFFICIENT STARTS: During the start, energy can easily be wasted when swimmers focus too much on “jumping up,” instead of “driving out and forward.” Learn from Nymeyer, Phillips and Meili on how to use your arms, legs and full body strength for an explosive and efficient start.
  • HIGH SPEED AND “TIGHT” TURNS: Learn how to maintain full speed momentum in and out of each wall and what specific skills to focus on, to achieve a tight, fast turn.
  • PERFECTLY TIMED BREAKOUTS: The breakout stroke is a crucial part of every event, especially in short course racing.  Phillips, Nymeyer and Meili will teach how to achieve a perfect body position and stay “in plane” during the breakout.  This will allow for the most efficient transition from underwater to the surface.

HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET:

  • Get inside the minds of three of the best swimmers in the world.  Nymeyer, Phillips, and Meili will discuss their approach to goal setting, building an effective relationship with your coach and balancing life as a student-athlete.

HIGH PERFORMANCE FREESTYLE AND BUTTERFLY

  • POWERFUL AND CONSISTENT KICKING:  Nymeyer and Meili will demonstrate the most efficient way for to maximize the freestyle kick and generate power from the legs.  By focusing on maintaining loose and “whip-like” ankles directly under the surface of the water, participants will be able to maintain a more balanced and constant kick throughout their entire race.
  • MAXIMIZE THE “CATCH”: Having a great “pull” is all about maximizing the amount of water you can hold or “catch” during your stroke.  Nymeyer will focus on helping participants maximize the surface area of their hand and forearm, by initiating the catch phase early and getting rid of any unnecessary movements during the pull.
  • HEAD POSITION AND BREATHING: While swimming butterfly the entire body should be moving forward and it begins by leading with the head.  Phillips and Meili will teach to not pick up the head to breathe and minimize the up and down movement during the breath phase.
  • FAST AND EFFICIENT RECOVERY: At the end of the stroke, you snap your arms and hands out of the “back end” of your stroke.  This allows you to use all of the power and momentum from your catch to your advantage and is the best way to keep a powerful and efficient recovery. WATCH THE CLINICIANS: Observe  Nymeyer, Phillips, and Meili swim at full speed and demonstrate a progression of perfectly executed drills to achieve powerful, efficient and fast freestyle and butterfly

 

 

 

TGIF?

Last night as I was preparing for today I was thinking to myself how awesome I was.  I have spent the last two weeks feeling like one of those awesome moms you see on Pinterest.

Two weeks into juggling three schools and along with swimming (three different groups, two different teams and pools 30 minutes apart) things were going much better than I had expected.  The house was tidy.  Dinners were homemade.  Lunches were packed.  I had even filled out every form that the girls brought home from school – that day!  The kids made it to every practice on time and I was feeling good.

Back to last night.  I had the coffeemaker set, lunches prepared, clothes laid out, alarms set and bags packed.  I woke up at 3:45 AM, let the dog out (he was not thrilled) and went to wake up Grace.  I went to pour the coffee into the thermos.  I had forgotten to pour water into the coffee maker, this should have been my first indication that things weren’t going to go well today. Fortunately, I had the time to fill it with water and get my coffee.  Which I don’t drink right away.  I drove Grace to her 4:45 AM practice and settled into my usual routine.  I take a nap in the car.  People think I am crazy.  I’m not.  This is genius. I take a pillow and a blanket and sleep.  I set my phone alarm for 10 minutes before practice is over.  And then I drink my coffee.

Grace came out of the pool pretty quickly.  We are in a hurry to get out of there, we barely get her to school on time.  Unfortunately, Grace had forgotten a key item of clothing and as such I had to take her back home.  This meant she would be late for school and I would have to check her in.

We were close to the house and Sarah called.  She had misunderstood my directions for her to ride the bus, she thought I was taking her.  She had missed the bus and needed me to take her to school as well.  At this point, I needed to get Sophie up and ready for school  Sarah was also going to be late and I would also have to check her in.

Sophie woke up on the wrong side of the bed.  She was cranky and was mad I woke her up ten minutes late, she had math homework she needed to finish up and rather than just do it, she opted to cry for about 20 minutes.  The good news was she was going to get to school on time, albeit in quite a bad mood.

Rather than allow all this to dampen my spirits, I decided to take Teddie for a walk.  One of the downside of being a white and very fluffy dog is that when he picks a hill to poo on sometimes that poo lands all over his white fluffy coat.  None of the girls jumped for joy when I gave them the opportunity to bathe Mr. Teddie.  I feel like I have paid my dues in diaper changing but I got to scrub the fluffy butt clean.

After bathing Teddie and dropping Sophie off at school I decided to give Sarah and Grace a lecture on organization -that they needed to pay attention to the details.  I might have gone on a little long because Grace said “mom stop beating the horse”.  I explained to her that it is a “dead horse”.  She decided I was stupid, that it would be pointless to beat a dead horse.

I won’t lie I was thrilled to get them out of my car today.  Here I was, top of my game in organization and they were completely messing with it.  I could not wait to get to the gym.  I had to make a quick pit stop at home though, I had forgotten to change out of my flip flops.  I probably won’t tell the girls that.  We are ordering pizza tonight.  Next week I’m totally nailing it.  No slip ups.

New beginnings…

I always joke that New Year’s Day for moms is actually September 1st.  Kids are back in school, we are back to the routine.  Everyone vows to be more organized, cook healthier dinners, be more patient with their children and spend more time in the gym.  I’m lucky – I work in the fitness industry so that last one is easy for me.  Thus far I have filled out all the forms, my house is clean, kids are well fed.  I even had dinner prepped and ready to go by noon today.  I’m off to a good start.

Grace is off to high school this year.  I still have mixed emotions about it, those seniors look like grown adults.  Grace is like a baby next to them.  She will always and forever be my oldest baby.  Sarah is enjoying her one and only year in school without a sibling.  She can have her own identity for her middle year in middle school.  Sophie is in her final year in elementary.  I really am sick of elementary school, it has been 9 years straight.  I’m ready to close the door on that chapter.  I can also guarantee that I will be crying about it this time next year.  Where does time go?  They really do grow up too fast.

The new swim season is also upon us – after a two week break they are back in the pool.  I respect and admire the dedication it takes to be a swimmer.  Sarah and Sophie were more than ready to get back in.  Grace seemed to enjoy the break more than she has in years past.  She needed the time out of the water.

Sarah and Sophie will continue in their groups with RMSC.  Sarah is in the National Training Group, Sophie Advanced Juniors.  They love their coaches and all of their friends.

Grace will definitely have a year of new beginnings, she is moving to NCAP.  And there you have it.  My girls will be swimming for competing swim clubs and at pools that are 30 minutes apart.  I’m totally at peace with the decision and feel that her departure from RMSC was done in the best possible way.  There are no words to describe how good it feels to leave on good terms.  I have watched too many people burn bridges.  Some have even taken a stick of dynamite to the bridge.  I couldn’t do that.  I’m really optimistic this is going to work.

It’s interesting that people have a hard time accepting this decision wasn’t made out of anger or frustration and that it was simply made because it was the best decision for Grace.  No, for all of our kids.  Yes, it is going to cost more (we already spend a small fortune, its a marginal difference).  Yes, I will be driving more (I drive all the time anyways).  Yes, meet weekends will be hectic if they are at different meets (because meet weekends aren’t already insane?).  Trust, me I spent enough sleepless nights considering all of this.  And we are still happy we made this decision.

It will be an interesting year, I can’t wait to compare and contrast the different coaching styles.  How my kids respond to these styles.  It will be fun to go to some new meets.  It will be exciting to support two teams.  And make some new friends.  In the end, it really is just swimming.  It’s an individual sport.  How often we forget that.

I can’t wait for the madness to begin.   Good thing that is happening in 32 minutes.

Breaking up is hard to do.

We met with Grace’s coach today and told him.  I had rehearsed the speech many times in my head.  I had a bunch of things planned to say.  They all came out at once.  I was petrified he would be mad.

He wasn’t.  He was so kind. He was sad to see her go but also felt that we made a really solid decision for her.  He completely understood and most importantly told her the door was always open should she want to come back.  The discussion was frank and honest.  I should be so relieved.  I came home and cried instead.

In the end, I am grateful that it was that painful.  My kids are so fortunate to have such amazing coaches.  It’s a good problem to have.

Snap back to reality

After zones we headed out on our annual Florida road trip.  We all needed some down town and we didn’t take as many pit stops on the way down as we have in past years.  The girls were so tired that they slept all the way there.  It was a peaceful ride.   The girls really enjoyed the beach and even more so, took advantage of the break and got some much needed sleep.  I don’t think they were up before noon once.  We spent a lot of time at the beach, shopped, ate way too much and played some fun board games with the grandparents.  Notice I didn’t make mention of a pool?

There is no doubt in my mind that we would be very happy living at the beach.  I often dream about living in Florida or California during the drive home.  This year was no exception.  Moving is a really good option at this point.  It beats dealing with reality.

The truth is, Grace is making some big changes this year, she will be switching to a new team.

This is not a decision that was made lightly.  Or in haste.  Or at least in her mind.  She has been asking us to consider this since early spring.  We are perfectly happy with where she is.  It’s a reasonably priced program, great facility, convenient and the coaches are all great people.  We met with her coach late in the summer season and left satisfied that he is running a great program.  It’s hard to justify leaving.  I have always been an advocate for the club she swims for and I expect that when word gets out some will be scratching their heads.  Some may even say we are crazy.  I’m really nervous about meeting with the coach.  Moving to California would be so much easier.  Really.

I have talked about this a lot but Grace has been very isolated the last two years, swimming with boys or girls much older than she is.  There just aren’t a lot of girls her age at our site, the few that we do have all go to school together, and have since they were 5 – Grace is definitely an outsider.

Grace spent the last few weeks of summer in tears.  Begging and pleading with us to let her move.  I exchanged emails with the coaches of a group she was interested in joining for several weeks. I was always pleased with their responses and responsiveness.  I chatted with parents who have kids in the group at meets and they were all so pleased with the group dynamic and coaching.  Grace finally wore us down and we allowed her to try a practice before zones.  And it was a game changer for her.  Fairly certain this was a done deal, I asked that she really get to know some of the girls in the group.  She did.  She loved them.  It would seem that making a decision of this magnitude would be a relief once finally made.  That was not the case.  Because we had a vacation planned and I had to tell her current coach -as well as her two previous coaches – face to face.  Vacation just stalled the inevitable.

I’m still not really sure how I am going to find the words to explain this decision.  We are leaving a group and club we can find no fault with.  It just isn’t the right fit for Grace.  Sarah and Sophie aren’t leaving and in all likelihood, they won’t.  There isn’t anything they could have done differently or better.  She just needs something different.

Grace is taking a step back, moving into less time in the water and can only stay in this group until next summer.  She is on the older end of the group.  They will focus more on her technique.  She will focus more on her own technique.  We will be watching her like a hawk.  She has to get this right.  Her coach is a female which she found really appealing and there are lots of girls her age in the group, one in particular is a very good friend of hers.  I am confident she will fit in, make friends and above all be HAPPY.

In the end, I am paying more and driving more.  It’s a small price to pay for her happiness.  We believe in her and need her to find the will within herself to find her place.

I’m petrified to tell her coach.  I wish I didn’t like him. I wish he ran a bad program.  I wish the kids and parents in the group were all awful people.  It would be so much easier.  But none of this is the case. We meet on Saturday it will truly be a relief once we have had the meeting.  I toss and turn at night trying to find the words.  I have never been in this situation and this is not going to be easy for us.  But I am convinced it is the right decision.

I’m going to do a better job of sharing my thoughts and emotions in the coming year.  As well as sharing the progress of the girls.  It is going to be interesting – kids on competing teams, pools 30 minutes apart, meets in different locations.  We are also shifting our mindset to that of quality swimming rather than getting caught up in the girls times.  I hope you will share my blog with a friend or two, I love the comments and connecting with parents and coaches who “get it”.

Good luck to all as a new season starts.

As luck would have it

Grace hasn’t done well at zones. She swam yesterday and today, adding time in both races. Sarah did well yesterday – she dropped a tiny bit in her 50 breast. Sophie, added time in her 100 fly but her stroke looked good. And she is ten.

OUr LSC makes zones really fun for the kids. It’s like camp. With a side of swimming. The kids travel by bus, stay in a hotel, eat their meals together, cheer each other on when they aren’t swimming and they wear a team uniform everywhere they go. Those that make finals go back. And the lucky ones, those that don’t make finals, they go to various activities. It’s camp pure and simple. It is also Sophie’s first time away from home. She was definitely nervous. But also quite ready for the experience. It truly is the experience of a lifetime for these kids. They wear their zones jacket with pride for a month afterwards. Despite the fact that it is the dead of summer.

Chris and I drove separate cars to the meet. I’m taking the girls to Florida for our one and only summer vacation. Chris will head back to work. It was the first time all summer I have been alone. I drove in silence. Deep in thought. As we move into a new season, a lot of thoughts are rolling through my head. Decisions, have been made, indecision and regret soon follow. I have experienced guilt and gratitude over this decision. But when all is said and done, thoughts done being rolled around, I am still at piece with the decisions we have made. And then I change my mind again. I’m looking forward to our vacation but I’m also anxious for September. We can put the thoughts behind us and begin the real work.

Grace is going to make a move backwards. She is going to spend the better part of next year mastering the basics of swimming. We are absolutely convinced it going to be a game changer for her. Sarah and Sophie will benefit from this as well. We have learned from past mistakes and we are going to stop making those mistakes again.

As a swim family, we are going to take a year off from “times”. We are going to stop focusing on best times, adding time, dropping time, qualifying time and everything else related to a number. It’s easy to get caught up in that number but it really isn’t the best predictor of success. It’s been a tough lesson to learn but lots if people can swim fast. Very few can swim well. And those that do will find the success in the long term.

Our eye is on a new prize. We want our children to swim well this year. And with that, they shouldn’t need any luck at all.

Here’s to new beginnings.

The silver lining

The more my kids swim, the more I hate summer swim team. Nice huh? I am so jealous of the kids who swim “B” meets. They give out heat winner ribbons and the meets aren’t scored. I remember being at a B meet – Sophie was all of six years old and finally broke a minute on her 25 back. She is now doing it in 18 seconds. And pissed off that it is too slow.

I go into summer swim season pretty excited. And by week 3 I am completely over it. It can make you completely crazy.

Summer swim completely favors sprinters. The distances are usually shorter than what the kids are used to. Grave swims 50’s which is unheard of for 13-14 and poor Sophie swims 25’s at 9-10. Sarah, swimming as an 11-12 is In her glory.

Divisionals – the final meet of the season – was a mess for us. Sarah did great. Sophie did a decent job. And Grace spent most of the meet in tears, getting beat by kids who can’t take her in a 100 and certainly not In a 200. But in 50? Grace didn’t stand a chance. It was heartbreaking. Grace put her arms around me when the meet was over. Head on my shoulders. Tears flowing.  I was ready for summer swim to be over.  Grace really was at a breaking point, she was adamant that she was not going to continue swimming in the fall.  To be honest, I thought it was a good idea.

They say the “lucky” ones make All-Stars.  The top 16 in the county for each age and stroke compete against one another. This meet is held the weekend after divisionals.  Day 1 is All-Star relays.  Day 2, the individual strokes.  I’m not really sure the lucky ones go to all-stars, the week after divisionals we see a mass exodus of swimmers, everyone heads out on vacation.  Aside from those of us “lucky” enough to compete for one more week.

The girls were each in three relays, several competing together.  They did really well in all of them, getting a few seconds place finishes and all of the relays shaved off time.  They swam in a medley relay together and did really well.  It was fun to see them come together in competition.  I’m not used to that.

The following day was the individual competition.  Grace had two solid swims, swimming right at and just below her seed times in free and back.  Sarah took off over half a second, besting her team record and earning a plaque for her third place finish. Sophie shaved a little time off her fly and was beyond thrilled to never have to swim 25 fly again.  She may be the only kid in MCSL who would prefer a 50 and ideally would love to swim 100!  Everyone left smiling and happy.  More importantly, Grace left with a renewed interest in swimming in the fall.  She also was about to launch a one man crusade to change her path in swimming….

Vacation time?  Not so fast.  Monday morning, the girls had practice.  They leave for Zones on August 5th.   And then the new season starts September 1st.  Swimming feels like a perpetual season.  Although I am pretty sure we are about to embark on a season of change.

 

Goals, dreams, heartbreaks, challenges

It’s been a rough six months. I have sat here for ten minutes trying to come up with an opening line and everything I type is just sugar coating the truth. The truth is the last six months have been awful. And amazing.  And above all else, really challenging.

My younger two girls have had a great year.  They both have far surpassed any goals that they had set for themselves, both making zones and seeing a lot of success along the way.  There have been many exciting moments. They have made finals at some big meets, qualified for zones, and both qualified for Coaches Long Course – a county wide meet that only the top 8 swimmers in each age and stroke qualify for.  Having seen Grace qualify for these events over the years, they understand the significance of these things.  Sarah and Sophie have both had a fantastic season but it has not been without disappointment.  Most recently, the Coaches Long Course meet was rained out after the free style event and Sarah didn’t get an opportunity to swim breast, Sophie her fly.  Too add to their disappointment, Grace swam free style and was awarded a big, beautiful, shiny medal.  Neither of them did particularly well at the summer champs meet.  Sarah’s breast stroke was off, the coaches were tweaking it and she didn’t have good swims.  Sophie swam like the ten year old she is, she lost her goggles on her 100 fly and due to a sloppy starter, she was not on the block for her 400 free.  She jumped up and dove in but everyone had a good 15 second lead on her at that point.  She did swim a beautiful 200 fly, a 12 and under event.  She was the only 10 year old to swim it and needless to say, she impressed me on her willingness to swim it, let alone do it well.

Grace has had a really rough year.  In September she had dreams of making sectionals before turning 14.  Her birthday came and went, and that sectionals cut became more and more elusive.  Her times through the fall and early spring remained consistent.  Flat, yet consistent.  In April she made a bold move and moved into the National Training Group.  She took on a harder training schedule – more distance and more practice.  She was dedicated to the practice group and has worked hard.  We knew going in that we should not expect time drops for quite a while, that her body needed to adapt.  What we didn’t expect was that she would be swimming slower than she was a year ago.  I keep hearing that this is normal but it is heart breaking.  For her.  And for me.  She has a had a few shining moments but they are far and few between and not enough to help hold hope.  She is discouraged and frustrated.

We have pushed her pretty hard to ensure she wants to stay in the sport.  We gave her permission to quit.  She lost her mind.  We needed to see that.  The fight in her is still there.  We gave her permission to change groups.  What we didn’t prepare for was her asking to change sites, groups and clubs.

She wants to move to a new team.   One that is significantly more expensive.  Much further away.  And logistically a nightmare for us (me).  I really want to give her this opportunity.  I want to say yes.  But for now I have to say no.

One of Grace’s issues is that she has some technical problems.  She tends to swim sloppy.  Everyone that has ever coached Grace adores her.  They also cringe when she swims.  There comes a point when you have to accept responsibility as a swimmer for these issues.  We can’t blame the coaches, they have all gone above and beyond the call of duty to help her out.  Grace at some point needs to square up with the fact that she needs to change the way she swims.   Oh.  And that point is now.

We turned down her request to move.  We made a pact with her.  We are meeting with her coach to develop an action plan.  We are going to hire an independent coach to work with her one on one.  She has to stay on course until her birthday, November 5th.  She will leave the world of age group swimming and if she does proves to us through her swimming that she wants this, we will move her anywhere she wants to go (I’m up for California but I think the territory will be limited to Maryland).

My life will be a living hell if she makes the changes she needs to in order for this move to happen.  And I am totally fine with that.  She told us last night that she hates us and that we are the worst parents that ever walked the face of the earth.  I think she meant it.  She is a resilient little shit though, today she wanted to go to the mall.  Oh and wanted to know when she could start the private coaching.  My money is on Grace.  She can do this.  For her own sanity, she has to.  I love her to the ends of the earth.

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