We don’t care about times
I have heard this several times this year. Dude really? I wasn’t born yesterday.
One was the parent of a top (and I do mean top) swimmer in his age group. I am talking nationally ranked top swimmer. Being humble is one thing but thinking people are stupid is another. The person talking to them was paying them a compliment. I think if your kids is doing awesome and someone points out this awesomeness the most appropriate response is “thank you”. If you feel the need to be humble throw in a “he has had a good year thanks to hard work and great coaching”. But don’t act like you don’t know your kid is the shit-diggity. Anyone who hates you for it is an asshole.
Swimming is a sport that is all about the times. No one gets better by having pretty strokes or a cute suit or because their mom volunteers a lot. The sport is based solely on times. After a race the kids are never thrown compliments by the timers. They get one and only one piece of information.
Our summer league has two meets. One that the three fastest swimmers in each age and stroke participate in and one that anyone can swim in. I am fairly unapologetic when my kids swim in the A meets, it generally happens when they are top of their age group and I am not upset when they don’t. I really don’t feel guilty when mid-season my kids bump another kid out and beg my kids not to react if they get bumped out. It isn’t a sport up for interpretation…the rules are clear and not up for debate. I want my kids to always do their best and not worry about what other kids are doing. Of course I want them to have fun BUT I care about their times. I won’t insult your intelligence and say I don’t.
I have been hammering in my kids heads for years that place doesn’t matter.
And then along come the Olympic Trials. They were fast to point out to me that place does matter. Ok fine, go the Olympics get first and I won’t ask you your time when you are done swimming. I hope if they go they look cute though.