One of the more notable differences

Having my girls split on two different swim teams, I keep waiting for that ah-ha moment – that one thing that I can say is totally different and unique.

I think I found it. It’s a tradition at RMSC that on your birthday parents bring donuts for the entire group to help celebrate. NCAP doesn’t do that. They bring cupcakes.

Today Grace celebrates her 15th birthday. This has been a year of transition for her – she started high school and changed swim teams at the same time. She is handling the changes well. I’m having a harder time.

I suddenly know what people mean when they tell you to enjoy every moment. Their childhood really does go in the blink of an eye. She is already talking about colleges and I find myself really upset by how quickly my oldest baby is growing up. She is a remarkable young lady and We are extremely proud of her. She is really happy and enjoys life to the fullest. I shouldn’t worry, she is going to do just fine in life.

I’m going to stop looking for that ah-ha moment. In the end, it’s just kids swimming anywhere you go. What is important is that they are happy. The moments, they go too quickly.

Next meet she will swim as a 15-18. I’m learning quickly that it’s a rough age group. Time drops stall for a while. I’m thinking of starting a support group. And when Sarah and Sophie get a little older perhaps an I told ya so group. No one believes it until it happens.

I’m holding out hope that if they are happy, the rest will come. I love you Gracieboo.

3 thoughts on “One of the more notable differences

  1. You hit on the most important point in swimming. “What is important is that they are happy” That is it in a nutshell. Happy swimmers improve and do better. Unhappy swimmers stall or do worse. That is life of a 13-18 yo swimmer.

    Practice is canceled one day. Most swimmers are happy or relieved. Then practice is canceled for a second consecutive day. If you are a swimmer and you are happy about 2 or more days of practice being canceled then you should quit swimming.

    I drove a 7th grade swimmer in the carpool to practice last night. She first announced that the only reason she hasn’t quit swimming is she wants to do high school swim. Then she stated the three things she thinks about while at practice. #1. Why is she there.
    #2. She is hungry.
    #3. Why is she there.

    I have known her for her entire swim career. She is a good swimmer. But I also know that over the next 5 years she won’t improve that much. She doesn’t love the sport. I see it all the time with HS swimmers. They don’t love the sport and then they don’t improve much while in HS.

    At this point I only watch one thing about my swimmer. Whether or not if she wants to go to practice. That is the only thing that really matters. If she wants to be there she will improve. If she is coming up with excuses not to go to practice or complains out loud about practice then she won’t improve.

    • It’s interesting you say that because a topic of conversation amongst parents on both teams we are part of always is “how do you talk your kid into going to practice?” I’m FAR from a perfect parent but my kids don’t ask to skip practice – we do skip but for mandatory school events or once in a life time events (weddings, bar mitzvahs and family vacations). I have a hard time talking my kids into skipping practice. They become especially dedicated when we start planning our bi-annual camping trips!

      As someone who exercises for a living (I teach group fitness classes) I can totally relate to the hungry thing! I think about that a lot too!!!

      • The kids at our site on our club are falling into two categories. The ones that never want to miss and then the ones that are always trying to get out of practice. No surprise on who is doing better and improving.

        I am in the same boat. My swimmer never wants to miss. Her and her good friend started keeping track of each other’s practices. It was a game on who showed up more. It was fun until my daughter got a stress fracture and was out of the pool for 9 consecutive days. On day one I get home from work and she says she is bored. By the end I was praying the ortho would let her practice. She is and just not pushing off and pulling.

        I asked her all time when she is ready to quit. I tell her it wouldn’t bug me one bit if she did quit.

        It is sad when kids lose the love of the sport, but hey it is a tough sport once you hit 13 or 14. Play time is over. Everyone is not cut out to spend 12-15 hours a week at a pool and then add some dryland.

        I will say the ones that are next to you everyday are the ones you respect and they respect you . It is no wander why swimmers have a second family. Those bonds are strong.

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