I really love readers comments, I have talked about this before but it is really hard to have an authentic conversation on the pool deck. Parents tend to act like everything is sunshine and roses all the time. It isn’t. I’m a pretty open book, in real life and online. The more I open up, the more I find people around me do too. One reader dug up and old post of mine:
Her comment prompted me to go back and reread the original post along with several others I wrote around that same time. I had a rush of thoughts and emotions. I like to reply right away but I also felt that this deserved a little more attention than a line or two. Her comments are below and my thoughts are flowing. I’ll follow this up shortly.
I stumbled upon your blog while looking for guidance on what to do when your child (who has been struggling with swimming confidence issues) hits a plateau this season. It’s been a huge challenge coming from being one of the top swimmers to not improving times (in some events it’s been over a year) even after 4 meets so far this season. She cries after she sees her times and I don’t know what to do other than tell her to just keep trying. This has been even more disheartening knowing that she practices hard every night. She now has this mental challenge that she can’t do it when she gets to the meet. We have been working with the coaches to help her through this, but what a struggle this has been. I’ve asked if she wants a new sport? A break from swimming period? New team? She replies no to everything. If anyone has advice on what to do to get my 13 year old through this I would greatly appreciate it.
I love this blog- everything you write is absolutely the truth and the life us swim moms (and dads) endure.